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Advice for New Moms

4/19/2019

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I gathered together some of the best moms I know to discuss what we wish we would have known before becoming moms. Below you are going to find advice from amazing moms from all over. 
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We all Need a little Grace

Give yourself grace. This is a new, exciting time and you won't know it all. You'll be tired and overwhelmed, but also filled with more joy than you ever thought possible.
​Enjoy the ride! -Heather


Have grace with your partner (and yourself!) and remember they are learning, just like you. Talk about it before the baby comes. It’s so easy to keep score of who does what with the baby - but don’t. And if your husband is caring for the baby, but doing things differently then you are - let him. It’s ok. The more grace you’re able to give and if you’re able to honestly talk through things together - your marriage will only get stronger rather than the baby pulling you apart. -Briana 

You Don't Have to Love Every Second 

​​No matter what anyone says, it is completely okay and normal to not be loving/cherishing every second of your baby. Having a newborn is HARD STUFF, and it's normal to wonder "what have I done?!" Even as they get older, it's okay not to cherish every moment. Some moments are really hard. - Kristen

It's Okay to Ask for Help

Being a new mom can be tough. Check out these tips from moms who have already been their. They share their must have items, along with advice about life, encouragement and how to find humor in motherhood. Are you looking for hacks for surviving new mommy life. Whether this is your first pregnancy or your last these tips are the essentials you need to start out right. #newmom #advicefornewmoms
Don’t be afraid to ask for help and follow through when people give you the generic “let me know if there is anything I can do!” I was too afraid to do that with my first and now that I have had my second, I’m not afraid to ask for what I need from friends and family! -Christine

I second the help and the sleep!!! Especially the first 9 weeks. I struggled hard and refused help. Biggest regret!! -Samantha


​Don't try to do everything! The dishes can wait. Ask for help if you need it! Having support (and sleep!) will be so important for your mental health! -Stacey 

It is okay to ask for help! You do not have to be super mom. You do not have to do it all. Find one or two other moms (whether it be family or friends) to lean on when things get tough. Do not be afraid to express your needs, and allow others to help, where you feel comfortable.  -Jennifer

Find Ways to Make Your Life Easier

Freezing meals before was a lifesaver. I had a c section and could barely move, so my husband cooked some and we used the frozen meals. I didn’t make a whole day of cooking ahead of time. Whenever I cooked, I would double (or triple) the recipe and freeze a ton. This helped even more when I went back to work because I had even less time for cooking. 
And a second one is have a downstairs and upstairs changing station. Doesn’t have to be fancy. I used a plastic container with an extra pad, wipes, diapers, and a couple onesies downstairs. -Caitlin

Kids Only Need Love

 I wish I knew that all they want is to be loved, to be held, and to have your undivided attention. Gear and gadgets and outings can help pass the time and lend a hand in a small way but if all you do is hold them and give them eye contact and a smile you did a great job. 
                                                                                                                                                        - Janice

Calming a Fussy Baby 

If your baby is fussy and you’ve run out of ideas, step outside! It’s amazing what fresh air does for babies- magic! -Kelley

Play music in the background, especially if it's been a sleepless or stressful day. Something about music just calms and lifts the mood.  -Jenn

You Don't Have to do it All 

Don’t compare! It’s OK to not always be an Instagram or Pinterest mom. Survival days that consist of pajamas all day, uncrustables, and a little screen time are sometimes necessary!        -Hayley

Clothing Doesn't Have to be Complicated

Onesies are meant to be pulled down from the shoulders so the poop explosions don’t touch the baby from the waist up!!! And when it’s not that style, just cut the darn thing off. You’ll have a million onesies!
​-Samantha 


This is very basic but I don't know why more people aren't talking about zipper pajamas. ONLY buy zipper jammies!!!! - Molly


Being a new mom can be tough. Check out these tips from moms who have already been their. They share their must have items, along with advice about life, encouragement and how to find humor in motherhood. Are you looking for hacks for surviving new mommy life. Whether this is your first pregnancy or your last these tips are the essentials you need to start out right. #newmom #advicefornewmoms
​Ones that zip from the chin down so you don’t have to get them practically naked for nighttime changes. These are new-ish and are far superior to the zip from the bottom up version. Even better are the 2 way zip variety. Things have come a long way in the 8 years since my first.   -Kelly 

Keep a spare change of clothes (+diapers/wipes) in the car for baby, AND for you! Their messes aren't always contained. - Shannon

Mom is Important Too

 I wish I had known that it was okay to ask for help and take time for myself. When my youngest two were babies I wore myself down so much trying to do everything. Now I make time for myself. I do a quick workout in the morning and FIND time (even if there’s dishes in the sink!) to sit and read or do what I’d like to do for 20 minutes. It makes such a difference in my mood and outlook with my kids. - Debbie 

 Have your partner call you by your name. SAHM (Stay at home mom) and teacher moms are called “Mom” or “Mrs.” all day. You need someone to call you by your name to make clear to the world you are more than Mom and more than a teacher. You are an individual as well. Without someone knowing to call you by your name you might not hear your name for weeks - 
Michelle 

It is so easy to fill your life with your child! You still need to make time for the things you love. You can’t lose who you are in it all and being a mom doesn’t have to be your identity. I really struggle with this still! My little guy is 1! - Rachel 

Saving Money is Important

Trash bags fit just as well in diaper disposal rings as those really expensive ones!!!-Melanie 

Another practical tip is to watch for sales at Target. The gift card promos on top of cartwheel offers on top of coupons really make for a great savings! ​   -Jenn

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Don't try to go out and buy a bunch of baby gear that you will only use for a couple months, look for items that can grow with your baby. We started with a pack 'n play in our bedroom for the first few months, which we still use on trips.  Also, you can get a play mat, that turns into a bouncer and then a toddler table. Since these grow with you baby you will save in the future.  -Regan

Also, get a Costco membership! We buy all snacks and kid stuff in bulk. We also got our formula there when our son was a baby. It’s SUCH a big savings! -Hayley

You don't need a fancy diaper bag. A backpack will do and is more convenient. Costco diapers are cheaper and just as good as fancy brand names. Shop second hand stores, babies grow so fast that they seldom ruin clothes before they outgrow them.  -Desiree 

Tips for Feeding Baby

Newborns, breastfeeding, and dairy don't mix! If baby is gassy, try cutting it out of your diet!
-Lauren  
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Nursing is awesome, but don't stress, FED is best.  -Desiree ​

​Don't buy all your bottle nipples, pacifier, sippy cups all at once. My little boy was SO PICKY and we wasted so much money because he only wanted ONE kind! 
-Jordana
There are no prizes for breastfeeding/bottle feeding. Do whatever allows you and your baby to be as stress free as possible for that first little while. Mommy warriors come out of the woodwork, but you need to be your own mommy warrior for your baby and do what feels right for you. -Becca

Being a Mom is an Emotional Journey

No one told me about Day 4, when my milk came in. I was a crazy mess of emotions and had no idea why, which made it even worse. I was more prepared for it the second time around.   - Becky 

I wish I knew that taking care of a baby is the easiest part of this whole journey called “motherhood”. If I knew, I would have enjoyed my daughter even more when she was tiny and complained less about the little things. I realized that as my kids grow, the more needs that have to be met and the more challenges that we have to overcome. I certainly worry more about my daughter now that she’s in school than when she was really small and was just with either of us parents at home. I’m just glad to have a second chance to enjoy my son as a baby and to have an ongoing opportunity to be a good mother to my eldest.
 -Jewel

Sleep is so Important 

Being a new mom can be tough. Check out these tips from moms who have already been their. They share their must have items, along with advice about life, encouragement and how to find humor in motherhood. Are you looking for hacks for surviving new mommy life. Whether this is your first pregnancy or your last these tips are the essentials you need to start out right. #newmom #advicefornewmoms
 -Oh and always my BIGGEST piece of advice- if you want your baby to sleep through the night, buy all the Mom’s on Call books! As teachers I know we thrive on schedules so MOC is perfect for that. -Hayley

When your baby is napping, don’t keep things silent. They need to learn to sleep with some noise so they aren’t easily woken up. My babies napped in the living room with visitors talking, the tv on, etc. so they were then able to sleep anywhere! -Megan
 I’m so glad I took another teacher mom’s advice on sleep training. I used BabyWise for both of my kiddos. My babies are all happily in bed by 7 and sleep until 7 the next day. This gave my hubby and I time to catch up, time to put on a face mask, and in worst case situations, do some grading -Amanda

Swaddles saved my life. I loved my Halo Swaddles. Once my babies out grew them we switched to the Halo sleep sacks and still use them at 18 months. -Regan ​

Time Slips Away Quickly

The cleaning can be done later, get down on the floor and play because one day they won’t need you to. – Barbara ​

​ I wish I knew it gets better. As a first time mom, I was definitely sleep-deprived, not completely feeling the connection at first, exhausted and lonely at times even though I was not alone. I realized a few months later that it really does get better. As your baby becomes less needy, more independent, and sleeps longer, you start to become yourself again and all the positivity of being a mom starts to radiate within you. This was my experience and I’m very grateful for it. -Chantal

I wish I would’ve known how quickly the time passes! My oldest started kindergarten this year, and I’m blown away by how much she’s changed & grown in 5 years. I feel like she just turned 2 yesterday and is still my little toddler!  My son just turned 1, and I’m trying to soak in the moments & truly enjoy him—because he’ll be in school before I know it! 
Also—you think your schedule will slow down as your kids get older, but it actually gets busier! School drop-off & pick-up, piano, swim, gymnastics—we are always on the go! I miss the lazy mornings & movie afternoons we used to have! - Erin

Do What is Best For YOUR Family

New moms get a lot of contradicting advice. “Never wake a sleeping baby. Don’t let baby oversleep. You should sleep train. You should never do cry it out. Make everyone wash their hands before holding baby. Baby needs to be exposed to germs to build immunization.” It’s overwhelming and sometimes you won’t know what to do, and THAT’S OKAY. Just do what feels right and when it comes down to it, the most important thing is that your baby is loved and being cared for. Everything else is mostly a phase and they will be just fine. -Shannon
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11/26/2019 03:22:47 am

When we enter a phase of of lives that seems to be a whole new world to us, we feel overwhelmed. Sometimes, we don't know what to do; we question ourselves if our actions are right or wrong. Well, doubts keep us away from commuting mistakes which I consider a right thing. But when you are a new mom, you need to know that mistakes are all part of the process and you don't have to fear it. Learning could be done through the hardest way so you should be open with that! By the way, thank you for all these tips!

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